It’s Your Wedding, But Who Pays For What?

May 6th, 2013

There’s no doubt that one of the most challenging parts of a wedding is budgeting for it. What kind of wedding do you want to have? Where do you want to have the wedding? And on top of that, who is going to pay for all of that?

For decades there have been so-called ‘rules’ or ‘traditions’ as to who is supposed to pay for the different parts of your wedding, and we’re here to help break down that list.

Traditionally, the bride’s family usually takes on much of the cost, and in general their responsibilities include:

  • Ceremony Venue- whether it’s a church, synagogue or any other location
  • Bride’s gown
  • Floral Arrangements
  • Reception Venue
  • Photographer and/or videographer
  • Engagement Party- sometimes groom’s parents also will host one, however it is customary that bride’s parents hold the first one
  • Groom’s wedding ring
  • Reception- this includes all costs that go along with the location like food, music, decorations, etc.
  • Invitations and Paper Goods- This includes save the dates, invitations, programs, menus and so on.
  • Bridal party transportation to and from wedding location
Photo Credit: Pinterest

Photo Credit: Pinterest

As for the family of the groom, their responsibilities include:

  • Marriage license
  • Groom’s outfit
  • Bride’s bouquet and groom’s boutonniere
  • Honeymoon- Full cost
  • Rehearsal dinner
  • Bride’s wedding ring
Photo Credit: Pinterest

Photo Credit: Pinterest

Photo Credit: Pinterest

Photo Credit: Pinterest

Today, with DIY style weddings becoming more of the norm, families are able to split the cost more evenly and even spend less altogether.

This list is by-the-book traditional and by no means is set in stone. Many couples are deciding to throw tradition out the window and are not only pitching in for their wedding but paying for it all themselves. It is entirely a family decision and making sure everyone involved with the finances feels comfortable with what they are paying is the most important.

See You Soon,
Paula & Martin Ramirez
Paula and Martin Ramirez are the proprietors of Historic Mankin Mansion, a wedding resort just minutes from Downtown Richmond. They enjoy new restaurant finds, Virginia wines and discovering fun events and activities throughout the area for their guests.

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